Tag: parents

RONAN SEES CHANGE

Dear Scary Guy,

Since 2008 to 2009 – it’s now 17th of July and its our 6 weeks holiday! Yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

Does that sound good to you?

Where are you today? Were you at a school or at home? Don’t answer if you were at home – just answer if you were at a school!

One year ago you were at my High School. It’s really good for what you did for us.
Bullying has now decreased. There is now not a lot of bullying. It has now calmed down at our High School.

Thanks your the best.

Why do you what all those tattoos all over your body?

Thanks for everything! You have changed everyone’s life in Macclesfield High.

Thanks very much!
Ronan

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CAROLINE SPEAKS ABOUT HER POWER TO CHANGE

Dear Scary guy,

I wanted to drop you a line to say thanks for making things a lot clearer for me. You recently came to give your talk on peace to the school that I work at in Spilsby, Lincolnshire. Yes, Spilsby, the name that tickled you.

My son Deniz is 10, 11 next month and has Aspergers syndrome. Despite being a loving, caring, intelligent and happy boy, his ‘quirky’ ways have singled him out in the eyes of bullies. For the last 3 years, Deniz has been subjected to petty and hurtful jibes, racist and homophobic comments. At the beginning of this year he was physically beaten up by 5 boys whilst simply collecting his coat from the cloakroom. He hadn’t said a thing to them, they just set upon him like a pack of animals. Since that day, (and numerous visits and letters to the school), Deniz has struggled to continue his education. With a lot of love and support from myself and close family and friends, Deniz has held his head high and persevered, knowing that this September he will be attending a secondary school that is far better equipped to suit his needs. Over the last 3 years I have struggled with staying strong for Deniz and coping with the emotional side of it all. It has mentally drained me often. I have lost count of the times I have sat and cradled him, explaining that bullies are people who project their feelings onto others and that they are most likely jealous of him.

When you gave your talk, one thing really hit me hard, the ‘ignore’ word. I realised there and then that I had been telling Deniz to ignore them. Now I feel so ashamed that I ever said that to him yet realise that it is an ‘off the cuff’ phrase. I have vowed never to say that again, and to date I haven’t. I apologised to Deniz that evening for saying ‘ignore them or it’ and explained that I now realise why he couldn’t. I told him about you and have promised that one day soon we will look at your web sites together. Hopefully it will help Deniz to gain a better understanding as well as cope with his feelings more. Why soon and not now? Sadly, this weekend Deniz received some very nasty, racist and homophobic emails from children that he considered to be his friends. I have shown these emails to the parents of the children who are horrified and the situation is being dealt with through more meetings. This time, despite there only being 2 weeks left, I hope to come to a resolution that puts a line under this extremely hurtful behaviour and I want to thank you for giving me the courage and knowledge to fight what will hopefully be the last fight. Many friends have said that I should involve the police immediately as sending harassing and racist messages are indeed against the law, but after listening to you I have realised that not only are they children, but they must also be hurting themselves and most likely only need to realise the pain they have caused both Deniz and myself in order to re-educate and re-evaluate how they project themselves onto others. Understandably, Deniz is still very sensitive and upset about the latest incident, but as soon as I see he is stronger and willing to talk more, I will show him your videos and web sites.

Once again, thank you. You have made me realise past mistakes, ones that I have pledged will never happen again. You have helped me understand more why bullies act as they do and this has given me the strength to educate and listen as well as become more forgiving. You have made me into a better human being, which will in turn make my son a better human being to. Never give up spreading the word, world peace is achievable.

Thank you.

Peace and love

Caroline

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SUE REACHES HER SON

Hi Scary,

I just wanted to say a huge ‘thank you’. Last night I managed to get through to my own son. He’s had problems with bullying throughout school and although he’s left now and 18 years old it’s always been a problem for him and has affected his relationships with people. Last night I sat with him and we watched one of your school videos together. It really got through to him and he opened up. It was really emotional and obviously only the first step for him but your video managed to get through to him in such a good way. We sat and talked right through into the early hours of this morning.

I work with children in schools in Cardiff who have been affected by various awful things but found it really difficult to help my own son. I’ve had to kind of sit back, watch and wait until he was ready so by showing him your video I was able to get through to him for the first time properly.
I couldn’t have done that without you.

So, thank you. You really do inspire me.

Much love

Sue x

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STEVE SPEAKS OUT

HI SCARY,
 
I KNOW YOU WRITE WITH CAPS ON, SO I SEND THIS WITH MINE ON.
 
I JUST WANTED TO SAY THANKS FOR YOUR PRESENTATION AT BRAINTREE COLLEGE ON THE EVENING OF THE 21ST APRIL. TO PUT YOU IN THE PICTURE I AM THE FATHER OF CAMERON (I FEEL SURE YOU REMEMBER HIM ) AND CONNOR AND HUSBAND OF KAY.
 
IF EVERYONE PRESENT COULD TAKE EVEN THE SMALLEST AMOUNT YOU GIVE I AGREE THE WORLD WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE.
 
I WRITE THIS ALSO FOR MY OWN SATISFACTION AND INTEREST. YOU DID NOT KNOW, BUT I AM A SERVING POLICE OFFICER WHO 20 YEARS AGO TRAINED AT THE CWMBRAN POLICE COLLEGE WHICH WAS SHOWN ON YOUR VIDEO. I HAVE RECENTLY BEEN EMPOWERED WITH THE ABILITY OF PSYCHIC AND SPIRITUAL WORLD WHICH WAS ONE REASON WHY YOUR LIFE AND HAPPENINGS HAVE GIVEN ME SUCH AN INTERESTING INSIGHT.
 
I PERSONALLY, AM AT A PATH IN MY LIFE WHERE I FEEL INSIDE OF ME, CHANGES ARE HAPPENING. IS IT ANY WONDER THAT THIS YEAR I REACH 43 YEARS OF AGE ! AN AGE WHICH HAS A GREAT SIGNIFICANCE TO YOU. 
 
I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH THESE ABILITIES AND I AM SLOWLY COMING TO TERMS WITH IT. UNLIKE YOURSELF, I DON’T SEE ME TRAVELLING THE WORLD BUT I AM SURE I CAN HELP IN SO MANY WAYS. AT THE MOMENT I AM CONCENTRATING IN THE HEALING OF ANIMALS AND WITH IT HAVE HAD AMAZING SUCCESS. AT TIMES LAST NIGHT DURING YOUR PRESENTATION YOU PICKED UP ON MY ENERGIES I AM SURE. YOU WOULD MAKE ONE HELL OF A SUBJECT
 
CAMERON SHOWED TO ME WHAT LAST NIGHT WHAT I BELIEVED IN. I BELIEVE THAT ALL OF US AROUND THE WORLD ARE IN FACT POISONED THROUGH THE YEARS. THE MIND OF AN 8 YEAR OLD, SO CLEARLY UNAFFECTED WITH MUCH OF THE RUBBISH SPOUTED AT US AS WE GROW UP, IS A STARTLING REMINDER OF THE GOOD ON THIS EARTH.
 
WHETHER MY CAREER AS A POLICE OFFICER IS OVER REMAINS TO BE SEEN. I MAY FIND OUT TOMORROW AND COULD TAKE ANY DECISION OUT OF MY HANDS ANYWAY. AS YOU SAY MY OWN MIND NEEDS TO TAKE CONTROL AND THERE IS MORE TO THIS LIFE THAN MATERIALISTIC POSSESSIONS TO BRING HAPPINESS. I DO HAVE OTHER PEOPLE TO CONSIDER HOWEVER AND THAT IS MY BOYS AND MY WIFE.
 
AGAIN THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME,NOT ONLY FOR LAST NIGHT BUT ON READING THIS EMAIL. I WOULD APOLOGISE FOR MY RAMBLINGS BUT I’M SURE IT’S GIVING YOU A LITTLE CHUCKLE TOO.
 
IT IS A STRANGE WORLD BUT PEOPLE LIKE YOU MAKE IT SO MUCH BETTER. LONG MAY IT CONTINUE AND ONE DAY PEACE WILL BE ACHIEVED.
 
THIS EMAIL HAS COME FROM THE HEART, IT LEAVES ME IN TEARS OF HAPPINESS.PLEASE KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.
 
STEVE
 
PS AND YOU NEVER DID IT LAST NIGHT BUT BIG HUGS ALL ROUND DUDE

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KELLY FINDS HER WAY

Hi Scary Guy,

You came and visited my old school a couple of years back and I just wanted to say you have inspired me so much.

I used to get bullied and tormented alot but i learned to speak up and stand up and not be walked over it’s all thanks
to you now I do alot of research and i am currently researching about a book called please daddy
don’t trying to find out about it all.

i never used to see the point in living but now I do and see something good in everyday as you was my inspiration.
i just wanted to say thank you! x

Could you please e-mail back so I no you received my e-mail thank you x
Kelly

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XAVIAR SURLS SPEAKS

Hey Scary Guy,

I don’t know if you remember, but you came to my school, in Wray Colorado when I was in eighth grade.

I would like to thank you for coming and speaking that year, your words got me thinking about my life.

And I changed it completely and left the group I was hanging out with, and started hanging out with better people.

Thanks,
Xaviar

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KATIE’S STORY

My Story
Current mood: inspired
Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes

Today I am a confident, somewhat beautiful young girl. My ambition in life is to help others. That’s it. For three years I have actively helped young people such as yourself to overcome depression, self harm, bullies, and abuse. I have done this via email contacts and through the website allpoetry.com. On this website, I helped people to express their feelings through poetry instead of self harming. But I’ve not always been like this. Three years ago, I was just like you.

Let me take you back to that time. Three years ago I was fifteen years old, and I went to a local high school in Salford, Manchester. I was five foot seven inches tall, had long ginger hair, was spotty, wore glasses and braces and I was one of the most unpopular girls in the school. I was easy prey.

Because of this I was bullied, abused, attacked and manipulated to the point where I dreaded going to school in the morning. It got to the point where I would purposely make myself ill so that I didn’t have to go to school. I drank bleach, made myself throw up and slept in 5 layers of clothing to try to fool my Mum into letting me off school.

Eventually, as a direct result of the bullying and prejudice I was experiencing at school, I began to self harm. I carried a razor blade with me at all times – underneath the battery of my Nokia mobile phone. By November 2005 I was beginning to seriously contemplate suicide.

But then, on one of the days where I chose to actually go into school instead of bunking off to the local park, something amazing happened. A wonderful man called The Scary Guy (and yes, that’s his real name) visited my school. And he told me that I didn’t have to take this shit. It wasn’t mine to take. All the words that these vicious people spoke were a reflection of them, not of me. And it was with this realisation that I stopped hurting myself, stopped letting these people get the better of me, and decided to stand up for those that cannot do it for themselves.

Two weeks ago I was on Scary’s website (http://www.thescaryguy.com) and I decided to drop him an email and let him know of the impact he has had on my life. He phoned me up, and asked if I would like to spend a couple of days with him. I of course, agreed. The following blogs are a narration of what happened in those two days.

Today, in 2009, I am here to help you. I don’t know you, where you live or how you feel. I do not even know your name. But I am here for you, whenever you need me. And I will help you. My email is thescarygirl@googlemail.com in recognition to the man that saved my life. Whenever you have a problem, or even just a question about me and my life, just drop me an email. I will always reply.

You look radiant today.
Love you all.
Katie Edge

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WORDS FROM KATIE IN GERMANY

Hello Scary Guy,

Hi my name is Katie and I was in 6th or 7th grade when u came and visited my school in Mannheim Germany on the Army base.

Well I was looking through some old boxes of friends and ran across the poster u gave to me and my classmates. Well I just wanted to say hey and I appreicate what u help me and everyone else learn world wide.

I will never forget that lesson and I will always remember u I hope ur doin great and thank u for visiting my school all those years ago.

Thanks,
Katie

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YOU CHANGED MY LIFE!

From Sophi:
To: Scary Guy
Today at 2:12pm

you came to horndean techonology college about a year ago, when u did u made everything better.
i have a face disfigerment and it hurts me on the inside but i dnt let no one know, i always hid it with my hairbut now i dnt and i feel like a different person.

i dnt get bullied or picked on about it and i have loads of mates but it all seemed better when you came.
there are 2 things i want to do before i die, i want to sky dive and to meet you agen
thank you for changin everything!

love sophi your biggest fan
xxxxxxxx

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