I must say at the opening of your lecture, I was intimidated, somewhat scared, and anxious to hear what you had to say. As you walked into the room, there was dead silence as if disbelief took hold of the room, even though we all knew prior as to what you would look like with the tatoos and rough exterior. However, as the lecture progressed, I started to relax and become comfortable. You truly stand for the expression “never judge a book by it’s cover”. You truly are one of the most genuine people I have ever heard and your personality is both contagious and inspirational. I have reached out to thank you, Scary. I have never been more inspired in my life. Not to say I was a bad person to begin with, but to stop all the prejudgments I have towards people before I even know their name. If I had a nickel for everytime I saw a fat guy and turned towards my friend and made a remark, I’d probably have a good amount of money. Every person carries a unique story and each should be looked at as such, not all categorized in derogatory stereotypes people make in order to boost their own self-esteem as you have mentioned in your lecture at Rider University this past Monday.

I would be lieing if I said this 7 day challenge was easy, because it certainly is not, but I am working on it. Society is becoming more and more cruel with each new generation. Best friends calling each other names in “kidding” fashion and women becoming more and more used as objects for people’s sexual enjoyment. I can’t help the world as you say, but I am starting to save mine. I want my mind to become pure and full of love. With your inspirational words and accomplishments, I believe it can be done. Good luck on your quest to lecture those fortunate enough to hear your words and for future successes coming your way. Thank you for taking the time to share your experiences and revelations and for opening the eyes of many.

Sean O’Hara


I recently joined a group facebook page about Tucson and our memories thereof. The Scary Guy came up as a memory, and I thought you’d want to know.

I remember being with my young son, probably 6 or 7 at the time and going into the restaurant connected to The Gaslight Theater and seeing The Scary Guy sitting there. My son asked me about him and all I knew about him at the time was that he actually changed his name legally to The Scary Guy and it was because of how he looked. But, not to judge him.

I am so pleasantly surprised to read up on the Scary Guy and see how he is helping communities with acceptance, and bullying and I\\\’m so proud of him. I have three kids who all have been bullied in their schools, and probably were participants as well, unfortunately, and I wish our schools, communities had more Scary Guy’s to teach our young as it now goes into the media age of computers and smartphones.

I never knew all the great work The Scary Guy has been doing, and feel proud he was part of our Tucson community and memories.

Robyn Raley


Dear Scary,

Years ago you shared your message with my children and gave them each signed photos to remind them of what they had learned. That day, you won my respect, admiration and continued support. I share what I learned from you whenever I can, and I tell people about you often.

I am a longtime fan and will continue to do whatever I can to help bring your message to the world.

The world is a better place for having Scary Guy in it!
Thank you for your hard work and dedication!



Hey, Scary!

Today I finally want to thank you for the inspiration you have been for me during the last years. I saw you first on the French-German-TV-Channel quite some time ago – and to be honest I was impressed, but forgot your message too soon. Nevertheless every now and then it came back to me, when my job at a University in Germany as a research assistant became too much for me, because some students were aggressive and offending me. I wasn’t so sure if I really liked the compliment “Among your enemies you’re having a good name”, because I never wanted to be hated or give others the impression that I despised them. But obviously somehow it went that way.

One night I when I was really desperate and couldn’t sleep because of all the anger I felt, I was watching your videos on youtube and when I listened again to you telling about that offending ad in the newspaper that made you reflect your life and your attitude that was the point when I finally wanted to turn around my direction as well, because I realized it was wrong. So I quit my job and in September this year I am leaving for Canada for several months, for a complete re-start, for doing something I love, for learning more about myself and to change my attitude to myself and to other people. Because for a long time I took up all the negative energy my boss, my students, colleagues and so on gave to me and I kept it inside – and in the end it made me seriously sick. At that point I remembered you and your message I heard a couple of years ago and that was the night I sat in front of the computer for several hours, watching your youtube-videos and I said to myself “Yes, that’s the right way. You have to create love to replace hate”.

Just wanted to tell you about having this impact on me and on my life. You are an amazing and precious man, thank you for sharing your message! I love you. Facebook says you already have too many friends (can anyone have too many friends?), so you can’t ad me – but I hope you get this message.

Best wishes and a big hug from Germany!



Dear Scary Guy,
My name is Amanda and I work for a program called Upward Bound, which is a college prep program for high school students. Upward Bound includes about sixty-five high school students and about twelve adults.
I’m not sure if you are aware of the goings on in Oklahoma, but two months ago, an 11-year-old boy named Ty Smalley took his own life because he was bullied so much at school. Mark Brennaman has been working with the Smalley family since the loss of their son. He came and spoke to the program yesterday afternoon where he showed us a video of you on Youtube.com. I was fascinated to say the least. I was inspired, as were many of the students. After we watched your video, one of the students suggested that we take on the “Seven Day; Seven Night Challenge.” We started this morning at 7 a.m. and so far the students have embraced the Challenge incredibly.
At Upward Bound, we have started our own program called Stand For The Silent. The students have organized this entire thing on their own. They came up with pledge cards to stop bullying in schools. There is a driver who busses students to the program who coined a phrase for us. “I Am Somebody.” The students decided that when you pledge and get a pledge card, you would also get a bracelet that says “I Am Somebody.” and on the back of the bracelet would be the initials of the boy, Ty Smalley.
You have been such an inspiration to our effort and I just wanted to tell you that the work you have been doing for the past seven years is absolutely incredible. I want to thank you for your message. I know this program, and myself, has greatly benefitted in just one day.

Truly yours,
Amanda Price


Dear Scary Guy,

A Few years back in school, your film inspired my class be nicer to each other and to see each other without being prejudiced. But to actually meet the person that has made such a difference in the world is amazing.

My 3 year old little sister, myself and my other half (Neil) came back to our shop and she said how she had a big hug from a soft giant and i think that is what it felt like, a big warm hug with out being scared. She later watched your video all the way through, I feel as though she really enjoyed it. =] After we came home, she sat on the chair in our living room and gave herself tattoos all over her body then came to hug everyone in the house, your video really lifted her mood even though she couldn’t fully understand all of it.

It’s great to see that after so long you still care about what your doing and how your message is still going around the world.
Keep rockin’ =]

Here is a link to the photo that was taken on that day, I know we look scared but we were definitely excited and even a bit shy. I feel very honoured to have that picture taken with you and really hope to bump into you again soon or maybe when ash invites us to the studio. =P

Please could you send a signed card to:
April (me 18), Emily (younger sister 16) & Taylor (my little sister 3)
Thank you. Will be in touch xxx


Hey Scary it’s Jake,

😀 When you were in England quite a few years back now you came to a school in a small town, King Edward VI Humanities College in Spilsby. I just want to say that to be honest, since then I’ve taken on what you said and I’ve become a much better person. Your words have inspired me no end and of course I was a little scared of hugging you that day but of course all of what you do, the Scary intro is all an act, from what i have seen of you on YouTube and the videos on your site,

I understand that it’s all an act so you want them to misjudge you, so that when you tell them who you really are inside, you’re one of the nicest, warmest and hard working people i know. You are an inspiration to me and us all and i hope that one day in the future of humanity, that all the children, parents, teachers, all those you’ve talked to would use what you’ve taught them and become better people.

I would like to ask if you have a personal Email address? If so then please may I add you? I’d love to know you better, I’d wager that you have some fantastic stories to tell from all over the world. Or maybe if you’re in the area next time we could meet up somewhere and have a good chat and a coffee 😛

If you can, please get back to me, I’d really like to talk to you again Scary, I help allot of people out with their problems so it would be good to talk to someone that could help me and give me some guidance with my decision making on helping them. If you don’t have the time it’s OK, it’s perfectly understandable 🙂

Anyway, I’ll let you get back to reading your Emails 😀 I hope everything’s going OK and I’d love to catch up sometime soon.

Lots of love,
Jake Harrington


Scary on hate and bias
Publ: 05 maj 2010 18:54 Uppdaterad Unt.se » Uppsala

The Scary Guy spoke in Gottsunda church for students in Gottsunda School.

He stands before the altar in Gottsunda church, with a face as colourful as that of the great Jesus Christ in the painting behind him; tattooed from head to toe; a face full of piercings; and with the school’s 300 Gottsunda students total attention turned to him.

Actually, he speaks of the obvious. “Look who is Inside that body!” he urges the audience. Well … that one should not judge someone based on looks, sexuality, profession or religion we do know. But with his Scary name and Scary appearance, his message is rather a surprise. But, as he soberly notes; “nobody would be interested to go and listen to The Loving Guy?”

Gottsunda school can boast: “This is the first time that The Scary Guy has appeared for Swedish pupils. The lecture is most akin to a show, as he makes students a part of it by bringing them up on stage and by going out among them to collect hugs.”


“Researchers have actually found that we humans need an average of sixteen hugs a day!?” says Scary, and he took the opportunity to hug the two policemen from Gottsunda, who were also sat in the audience.
And the Gottsunda Students loved him. They laughed, asked questions, and hugged him back.

“At first, I thought … Oh my god, what does he look like!? But I quickly forgot my thoughts. It feels to me like I’m going to see people a little differently now. He said things that really got one thinking,” said the ninth grade teacher Linnea Lejman after the lecture, when students started to immediately flock around The Scary Guy to get his autograph and a photo with him.

Eighth grader, Ludwig von Feilitzen, looked at the autograph he had just received, noting that it was the “best lecture” he had ever been to; “He looks like the worst motorcycle biker, but really proves that you should not judge someone by appearances. I have joined his facebook group!”

Behind him Rasmus Johansson gave his seventh grade English teacher a hug, reaching five of Scary’s 16 hugs a day challenge. He said happily; “Hugs make you better friends. There are some fights and bullying in Gottsunda here, so the lecture was really good.”

It occurred to me, that when you see the students’ enthusiasm … The Scary Guy seems to be something of a modern Jesus. Not that it is religion that he preaches. It is not. And it is a coincidence that we happen to find ourselves in a church. But he succeeds in getting a message of love across … without anyone raising their eyes to the heavens or falling asleep by just being there. He is exciting because he is not the one we thought he would be!

But, as The Scary Guy would say; “Who is, really?”

Story By: Elin Sandow elin.sandow@unt.se
Photography By: Rolf Hamilton

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